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Praise the Lord!!!

The St. Petersburg Times By Alexandra Odynova 

MOSCOW — The United States and Russia have agreed on key points of a treaty regulating child adoptions, and a final draft will be approved Friday for signing within two months, children’s ombudsman Pavel Astakhov said Wednesday.

The agreement, which Moscow demanded after a U.S. mother returned her 7-year-old son alone on a plane to Russia last month, will put an end to independent adoptions through lawyers instead of authorized adoption agencies, Astakhov said after a second round of talks with U.S. officials at the Foreign Ministry.

“There will be no so-called independent adoptions because this caused major problems. There was no opportunity to track a child’s well-being,” Astakhov said in a statement.

He said Russian officials had accepted a U.S. proposal under which agencies that participate in adoptions would have to receive U.S. accreditation and work in accordance with the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption, which has been ratified by the United States but not by Russia.

The boy who was returned to Russia was adopted independently, a process that Russian officials have complained does not allow them to monitor adopted children’s well-being.

Astakhov said the draft agreement will oblige adoptive parents and adoption agencies to report on the children’s health and living conditions and will allow social workers to visit homes to verify the reports.

“We have reached agreement on all key issues and have noticed a readiness to sign such an accord,” Astakhov told journalists.

Members of the U.S. delegation, headed by senior State Department official Michael Kirby, could not be reached for comment Wednesday.

Russia effectively suspended adoptions after Artyom Savelyev, now 8, was sent unaccompanied on a plane to Moscow on April 8 with a note from his U.S. adoptive mother that said he was violent and psychologically unfit. Torry Hansen, 32, is still de jure his legal parent.

The Washington-based World Association for Children and Parents filed a petition Tuesday before a circuit court in Tennessee asking that an investigation be opened to determine whether the boy was abused, neglected or abandoned, The Associated Press reported.

In Russia, 120,000 children are registered as orphans every year, senior United Russia official Tatyana Yakovleva said Wednesday.

About 3,500 Russian children are currently in the process of being adopted by about 3,000 U.S. families, according to the Joint Council on International Children’s Services, which represents many U.S. agencies engaged in international adoption.

U.S. families have adopted more than 14,000 children from Russia over the past five years, including 1,500 last year.

http://www.sptimes.ru/index.php?action_id=2&story_id=31431

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Good news for so many families who are trying to adopt from Russia. 

MOSCOW — Russia’s parliament on Friday defeated a motion that would have prevented Americans from adopting Russian children.

The motion was put forward in reaction to the case of Artyom Savelyev, an 8-year-old Russian boy sent back to Moscow alone last month by his adoptive mother in Tennessee. The mother claimed the boy was violent and that the orphanage had lied about his condition. Russian physicians said they found no mental issues with the boy.

Savelyev’s return led to calls for more control over foreign adoptions and a freeze on all adoptions to Americans until the United States signed a bilateral agreement allowing Russia to better monitor and control adoptions.

A motion to freeze all adoptions to the U.S. pending the signing of such an agreement fell 98 votes short Friday in the lower house of the State Duma.

After a month of conflicting signals, Education Minister Andrei Fursenko confirmed earlier this week that Russia had not suspended U.S. adoptions, which he said required legislation to be passed by parliament or a presidential act.

The dominant Kremlin-friendly party, United Russia, voted against Friday’s motion, saying it did not make sense given Americans’ willingness to discuss an agreement.

“If an agreement is not signed, we will be the first to submit a freeze bill to parliament,” deputy Natalya Karpova said.

Some 1,800 Russian children were adopted in the United States last year, according to the Russian Education and Science Ministry.

U.S. citizens have adopted nearly 50,000 Russian children since the early 1990s, the ministry’s Alina Levitskaya told the State Duma on Friday.

http://www.sptimes.ru/index.php?action_id=2&story_id=31409

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I have been wanting to write this post for over a week now. The life has been busy. Almost non stop, but I guess it is not new for me. Before I write about Russia I want to share a few facts about Germany that I learned from my recent trip there.

Family facts were quite shocking to me. Tobias told me that most children in Germany are raised by someone and not the parents at a very young age. Children as young as six months old are sent to a day care or something where a stranger is raising them. The first two years of a child's life are the most crucial ones because this is when bond develops. If you do not get to see your child that much during those two years then I would not be surprised if that child will be disconnected from his/her parents.

Orphans are a great example of that. They have been entrusted into the hands of a nurse in a baby orphanage, but they are not loved, cared or nurtured. It does not matter how loving and caring a nurse could be when she is alone with twenty or so children all the same age physically she is unable to provide that crucial care, attention, love, and bond cannot be developed. Thus, they are laying in a crib all day long for the first three years of their life. The older orphan gets and the more time he/she spends in the state institution the more he/she becomes disconnected in this world and the less they can communicate/relate to/with people outside of their world.

A country like Germany is in danger to lose the family aspects and the necessity of a bond. Furthermore, many Germans look down & negatively at people who are unemployed. A stayed home mother raising a child in Germany is not considered a job, yet we all know it is a very tough job. Thus, women in Germany are frequently forced by the society to abandon their children at such young age.

Moreover, many Germans are obsessed with work and prestige. They want to live well, which we all do, but as Proverbs 23:4 teaches us, "Do not wear yourself out to get rich; have the wisdom to show restraint." My point here is be careful and set your priorities. Remember what has more value.

As many of you are aware that religion in Germany or I should say in the entire Europe is on the verge sees to exist. Tobias told me that in the country like Germany which has 80 million people only 1% or so are true new born believers. I went with Tobias to his non denominational church that has about 300-400 members and it was exciting to see such reviving and live church. Currently his church is building a Christian academy because many Christians would like to send their children to such schools, but it is not an option because it practically does not exist.

The word such as legacy cannot be used among Germans because they prefer to ignore that. I also was shocked of how little they really care what is happening around them. They basically go with a flow and live day by day. They want others to worry about it. The bottom line is let George do it, but not me.

Very strict rules on the roads especially highway system known as Autobahn. Trucks can drive only so many kilometers/miles per day. They cannot drive on Sunday at all because Germany is basically off. They are remembering the Sabbath Day. Thus; nothing is open not even grocery stores. Big fines if you violate the law on the roads. Boy, I wish it was like that in Russia and not bribery system.

There is so much more can be said, but I think it somewhat summarizes my observations on Germany in general.

I will write more tonight on my first week in Russia.

Prayers are always greatly appreciated.

Love,
Alex
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I do not like to focus on negativity because the world is negative enough for all of us. I want to focus on what God wants and teaches us through His Word is to help this world. He uses us as a vessel to influence this world so that more people will be saved. However, we sometimes miss it out on most important and crucial things.

Most people are aware of what is going on when it comes to adoption and most of all the latest story on a mother who had returned her son that she had adopted only seven months ago. People in America are angry and people in Russia also. Actually a better word for Russia would be furious. However, why are they furious? Is it because they truly care for their forgotten and neglected children or is it something else. I know that this world does have exceptions always and there are people who truly and sincerely care for the children who have been seriously mistreated after their lives have been entrusted into the hands of orphanage staff or families who have decided to become guardians or foster care parents. Russian people have a tendency to scream very loud so that everyone can hear them especially the United States when it comes to abusing adoptive Russian children. We will yell really hard until we lose our voice so that our words are heard. Yet, I say have you looked into your own garden and realized that you cannot tell me that my vegetables are rotten and I need to do something about when your own veggies are rotten also. Matthew 7:3-5 talks about speck in the eye. " 3"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye." Well, before you can tell me something please take care of yourself. Thus, I want to share this latest article that a friend of mine had sent me.



April 25, 2010, 1:07 PM EDT

By Lucian Kim

April 25 (Bloomberg) -- About 2,000 children are killed in Russia every year out of 100,000 incidents of violence committed against minors, said Pavel Astakhov, the country’s ombudsman for children’s rights.

The number of Russians under the age of 18 will drop by almost a fifth in the next 15 years, to 22 million minors in 2025 from 26.7 million today, Astakhov said on the Ekho Moskvy radio station in Moscow late yesterday. Russia’s population was 140 million in July, according to the CIA World Factbook.

Astakhov praised U.S. Ambassador John Beyrle for promising to look into the case of a boy who was sent unaccompanied by plane to Moscow earlier this month carrying a note from his adoptive mother saying he’s “violent and has severe psychopathic issues.” The boy’s return prompted the Russian Foreign Ministry to suspend adoptions by American parents until the U.S. signs an agreement regulating the practice.

Orphan numbers in Russia total almost 700,000 children, more than during World War II, Yelena Mizulina, head of the parliamentary committee on families, told lawmakers on April 23, according to a report on Interfax wire service. Two-thirds of those children are “social orphans,” whose parents are still alive but unable to care for them, Mizulina said. Russian adoptive parents returned 30,000 children to orphanages over the past two years, Ekho Mosvky cited Mizulina as saying.

Foreigners adopt 5,000 to 6,000 Russian children annually, Astakhov said in the radio interview.

The government’s priorities should be reorganizing state orphanages, primarily by decentralizing the system, and giving disabled children greater opportunities, said Astakhov, who was named ombudsman by President Dmitry Medvedev in December.



Here is the point. The latest adoption story is strictly a political move on the Russian side. They want to prove a point to America. If you look closely when they talk about foreign adoptions it has to do with America only and not all countries that adopt from Russia such as: Italy second largest after America, Germany, France, Israel, Spain, Sweden, or Finland. Now Russia wants another agreement before things will resume to its normal paste. The latest article on what Russia wants from America is below.



Right to Charge U.S. Parents Sought

By Alexandra Odynova

The St. Petersburg Times

MOSCOW — Russia will demand the right to file charges against U.S. parents who abuse or neglect adopted Russian children during treaty negotiations aimed at unfreezing adoptions after a U.S. mother returned her 7-year-old adopted son to Russia.

A U.S. State Department delegation held initial talks about the treaty with Russian officials at the Foreign Ministry on Thursday, and the main negotiations are scheduled for May 12, the office of the children’s ombudsman said.

It was unclear when an agreement might be reached.

Russia froze adoptions after Artyom Savelyev was sent unaccompanied on a plane to Moscow on April 8 with a note from his U.S. mother that said he was violent and psychologically unfit.

Children’s ombudsman Pavel Astakhov said Thursday that the Russian side would make sure that the treaty better protected the rights of adopted children and allowed Russian prosecutors to bring criminal charges against U.S. parents who were abusive or negligent.

“The agreement will create a legal basis for the continuation of international adoptions and, most important, empower Russia to demand that the adoptive parents observe the legal rights and interests of the child, up to the criminal prosecution of violators,” Astakhov said, Interfax reported.

Russian negotiators will also seek the creation of a single agency to handle all issues relating to the transfer of Russian children to foreign parents, including follow-up questions about the well-being of adopted children, Astakhov said in a statement on his office’s web site.

“This agreement will take into account the rules of the Hague Convention, but it will significantly expand its borders,” Astakhov said, referring to the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption, an international agreement between signatory countries on best adoption practices.

He said the treaty should stipulate that all adoptions are carried out through accredited agencies, except in cases where the child was adopted by relatives, and that the adoptive parents receive psychological testing and training on child-rearing.

He said Russia’s demands have been compiled in a draft treaty.

The head of the visiting U.S. delegation, Michael Kirby, told journalists Thursday that the delegation had not received the Russian draft treaty but stressed that both sides would strive to reach an agreement.

The negotiations were initially scheduled for April 19 and 20 but were postponed after a volcanic eruption in Iceland suspended many trans-Atlantic flights.

U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Clinton raised the issue of child adoptions during a telephone conversation with Foreign Minister Sergei Lavrov earlier this week, U.S. State Department spokesman Philip Crowley said Wednesday. He did not elaborate.

Some 3,500 Russian children are currently in the process of being adopted by about 3,000 U.S. families, according to the Joint Council on International Children’s Services.

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I have been involved in foreign adoptions as a consultant and counselor for the past nine years. The biggest question that most families have is concerning dual citizenship for Russian adopted children who are no longer minors (18 years of age or older). I am going to attempt to answer this mystery question as a result of research and a recent conversation with a representative of the Russian Embassy in Washington D.C. who works at the citizenship department.

• Does Russia recognize dual citizenship? According to recent changes in the Russian Constitution the law allows all Russians to have dual citizenship. Furthermore, the Russian law does not require citizens who have become a citizen of another country other than Russia to denounce their origin citizenship. However, there is no written agreement between America and Russia that states legal recognition of dual citizenship.

o Since early 2000’s all adopted children become American citizens automatically upon entering the United States. Once the paper work has been completed adoptive parents receive a certificate of citizenship and eventually process an American passport. Thus, they are fully recognized as American citizens and still have their Russian citizenship.

o This dual citizenship will always be legitimate. The only way to lose your citizenship if you commit a crime, officially denounce your citizenship or decide to become a citizen of another country other than the United States.

o Can you travel to Russia as a minor using the Russian foreign passport? Yes, you can. You leave the United State on an American passport and enter the Russian Federation on a Russian passport. Note: If you enter the Russian Federation on a Russian passport then you will be treated as a Russian citizen. In case of emergency you can contact the American Consulate or Embassy, but you may face some challenges because you are in Russia as a Russian citizen.

o Can you travel to Russia on a Russian foreign passport once you are no longer a minor? Yes, you can for as long as your Russian foreign passport is legit. If your Russian foreign passport has expired then you can simply contact the Russian Embassy in Washington D.C. and process a new one. This process take anywhere from 1-3 months and cost $150. Make sure that your adopted child has been registered at the Russian Consular Department at the Russian Embassy. This procedure is a common step, which is preformed shortly after the arrival into America. Once your child has been registered he/she does not have to be re-registered because it has no expiration.

o What do I do if my child is a boy and he is older than 18 years old? Based on the Russian Constitution and the Federal Law registered/accepted/released on March 28, 1998, Bill #53 states the following, “Every male in Russia is required to serve in the Russian Military Forces.” A young man is eligible to serve in the army anywhere between 18 – 27 years of age. All young men in Russia receive an official stamp in the internal Russian passport that they are legit to serve in the army. Thus, they have been registered for the service. This process is known as the voinskiy uchet (military account). Following category of people do not qualify to register and serve in the Russian Military Forces: those who are currently serving in the military, if you are in prison, female and do not hold some form of military position, citizens who permanently reside abroad/outside of the Russian Federation.

o Can you be taken into military service without a registration/voinskiy uchet? No, you cannot. If someone says during your visit to Russia that you cannot leave the Russian Federation because you have not served in the military then you simply state this Federal Law Bill#53 that says clearly who is eligible and they will leave you alone. Furthermore, all adopted children have been signed out of Russia meaning no longer have a local residence registration known as propiska; thus, they cannot be registered or be eligible for the service because officially their residence is not in Russia.

o Can I renew my child’s Russian foreign passport even after 10+ years? Yes, you can renew whenever you please by simply contacting the Russian Embassy in Washington D.C. and submitting the paper work. For more details check out their website “passport”: http://www.russianembassy.org/

o Do you have to denounce your child’s or young adult’s Russian citizenship? Well, only if you think it is necessary or you have no interest of keeping their Russian citizenship. To denounce Russian citizenship it takes 2-5 months, cost $145, requires a personal appearance for an interview, submission of different documents, if personal appearance is not possible then an additional application form must be filed and notarized by an attorney. If you want to know more about the process you may check out the Russian Embassy website “citizenship” or “grazhdanstvo”: http://www.russianembassy.org/

You may also contact me if you prefer.

I hope this blog entry will help you in trying to understand dual citizenship and traveling between two countries for adopted children. If you have further questions please do not hesitate to contact me.

For more information on the military service act and laws please visit following sites in Russian:
• http://www.prizyv.net/advice/u4et/
• http://armyrus.ru/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=55&Itemid=1483

For more information on dual citizenship according to the Russian Federation Federal Law/Constitution please visit following sites in Russian:
• http://www.rususa.com/forum/message.asp-msgid-56598
• http://www.consulrussia.org/ru/citizen.html#6

For more information on dual citizenship according to the Russian Federation Federal Law/Constitution please visit following sites in English:
• http://travel.state.gov/travel/cis_pa_tw/cis/cis_1753.html
• http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=d809a77f731de110VgnVCM1000004718190aRCRD&vgnextchannel=d21f3711ca5ca110VgnVCM1000004718190aRCRD
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Focus on Relationships by Dennis and Barbara Rainey

Philippians 1:3I thank my God in all my remembrance of you.
I once read of a survey in which people were asked if they would be willing to take $1,000 to give up celebrating Thanksgiving with their families. Most said they would decline the money; they wanted to be together as a family.
Isn't it ironic, then, that so often we get lost in the trappings of the turkey and gravy and mashed potatoes, and we forget that we should be focusing on relationships?
One way to make this Thanksgiving meaningful is to spend time expressing appreciation for the members of your family. I realize this will be uncomfortable for some; in fact, it may be impossible. But sometimes we need to stretch ourselves and say those things that need to be said.
For "Family Life Today" we taped a number of people around the country who expressed thanks for their families.
Here's a sampling:Greg Fast, Colorado Springs: "I'm thankful for three gorgeous miracle babies we were not supposed to be able to have. Just last night I went into the kids' room while they were sleeping, and I remember the feeling of thankfulness for being able to pray over these children."
Charlie Boyd, Little Rock: "I am thankful for my dad. He is a man of integrity, and he loved my mother. I remember him coming home from work every day, walking into the kitchen, putting his arms around my mother and giving her a big kiss and telling her he loved her. I can still see it as if it were yesterday."

Linda Allaback, Tulsa: "I am truly thankful for my husband. We celebrate 12 years of marriage this Sunday, and I am thankful because he accepts me for who I am."
Darcy Kimmell, Scottsdale, Arizona: "I'm very thankful for my mother. She raised six children. I look back at her example of how she loved us so much and took such good care of us. Whenever I had someone spend the night, my mother would tuck in both my girlfriend and me and then she would give us both a kiss. My girlfriends always appreciated that."
Can you imagine how meaningful it would be to hear words like that on Thanksgiving?
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I realize this is a super long article, but well worth reading it. You will find it quite educating.

In Russia every fourth orphan finds a new home, but every third is then returned to the orphanage. Let’s discuss!






Article by Ekaterina Rozhaeva-August 26, 2009
http://www.ufa.kp.ru/daily/24367/550927 (Komsomolskaya Pravda/Komsomol Truth)

A saleswoman urgently needed a child. She quickly processed the paper work and came to the orphanage in Moscow region. The fact is that every eligible parent must bring a document that he/she has no criminal background record takes over a month this woman was able to get it in few days. Lena was a lucky girl who went to be with this woman because she fit the criteria. Unfortunately in less than a month poor Lena was back in the same orphanage. Initially this woman took Lena only because she knew that the state was going to give her some financial tax break as a result of doing some charitable work by adopting orphan Lena. However, Lena did not work out for this woman so she simply returned to the state institution as if she had borrowed a book from the library.

Such case is not a lonely one. The government officials or orphanage staff would typically say, “What can we do?! The responsibility to control how former orphans are being raised in a family is not my task.

Double orphan status

Humanitarian catastrophe is becoming to sound more frequently in the Russian society. Since when did we come to a point when thousands of former orphans who were adopted are now being returned back to orphanages?

There was an incident that sparked this humanitarian catastrophe. In March a family returned a boy who was HIV positive. When he was born his mother abandoned him right away. For the first year and a half of his life he was in a specialized kindergarten until the medical examination had shown that he was healthy. He then was transferred into a normal orphanage. On one of his birthdays he received a gift, which was a family that adopted him. It was a young couple who had a newborn child and they decided to adopt Mark as well. In less than two months the parents have filed a termination of parental rights because they found out that Mark was HIV positive. They claimed that the orphanage hid the information from this couple.

Well, it is actually not true. Based on a new law since 2008 a family that has more than two children can receive a onetime state financial compensation in the amount of 300,000 rubles ($10,000). Furthermore, the state was going to give them additional maternal federal capital compensation, which is another 250,000 rubles ($8,333). As soon as they knew that it was the case they quickly went to the bank to get a credit in order to purchase a new house. Well, the bank had denied their request so the very next day the family had returned Mark to the orphanage because they could not get the credit or the state financial compensation.

The orphans who have been adopted by Russian families lately have been returned to the orphanages more than ever. The director of a charitable organization had said that they suspected that such catastrophe can happen especially when families adopt orphans just to get a bigger housing and as soon as they get it they no longer need an orphan so they return their adopted child back to the orphanage. Unfortunately there is nothing could be done. Furthermore, according to the law this orphan has no right for this housing since these adoptive parents are no longer his/her parents. Our government does not punish families for returning an orphan or abandoning him/her for the second time even if adoptive parents had a legit reason for termination.

Orphan’s dowry

The specialists who are responsible for the orphan catastrophe are convinced that the biggest disturbance that caused this dilemma was a new bill that came into effect as of September 2008. From four forms of social care (adoption, guardianship, foster care family and private orphan care) in all cases except for adoption a financial compensation is paid to parents.

Today if you want to adopt a child any person can do that with legit documents and no criminal background history. Most private orphan care parents have never seen the children and do not know how to raise them so they take them without a clue. Children are chosen based on one database that takes into consideration the preferences of parents for the child they would like. Once the child is outside of the orphanage the state officials have no interest whatsoever how he/she is being raised. There is a different government entity that is responsible to control the care of children in the private orphan care system. How parents supposed to raise these children is no one’s problem except a headache for parents who now have a child.

In the past there was one adoption system and database. A minor child was under one government and specialist supervision: psychologists, doctors, social workers, etc. Today this has been divided into many different government entities or organizations and for the most part it is just unnecessary paperwork. The papers get shifted from one place into another and from one organization into another.

Domestic adoption among Russian people is the least popular form of social care. If it is politically correct to say it is also the least economically “profitable” one. If you do adopt then the state will pay limited 8,860 rubles ($295). According to statistics at the beginning of July 2009 only 5,554 orphans were adopted whereas in 2008 more than 13,173 were.

The majority families prefer to use a guardianship form of social care. This is when they take orphans into a family as a guardian. Guardians will be paid a limited financial compensation in the amount of 9,592 rubles ($325) and depending on the child’s age the state will pay monthly compensation anywhere from 5,410 rubles to 6,160 rubles ($180-$205). This does not include other compensations from different local government entities that could be as much as 300,000 rubles ($10,000). Thus, in 2009 more than 38,000 orphans were taken into guardianship form of social care whereas in 2008 more than 75,000 were taken into the same form.

But even at such “profitable” guardianship form less people are now taking orphans from orphanages. Last year through all forms of social care for orphans more than 65,000 had found new families whereas this year only 44,000 did.

It might seem that there are fewer orphans in the orphanages, but it is an illusion. From year to year there are more orphans coming into the state system. The statistics are brutal: based on how many orphans there are for every 10,000 young children in the country, Russia has one of the leading places in the planet.

Furthermore, even in 2002 we have exceeded the level of orphans after the main meat grinder of the XX century-World War II, had left in the entire Soviet Union 678,000 orphans! Today there are more than 800,000 orphans and that is just in Russia!



Dear and kind citizens, what is wrong with us?

What has happened to the society? To whom was the Bible commandment written “Do not forsake and look after orphans and widows”? How is possible that as soon as we building ourselves nice lodges in the outskirts we quickly return orphans back to the institution? Who allowed for orphanages to be overcrowded because the ones that used to exist were either closed or simply given to someone else for other needs?

Can you really blame the financial crisis for this catastrophe?

The government officials basically speculated. They begged citizens to take orphans by tempting them with various financial compensations-the chairman of the Russian children’s fund and the author Albert Likhanov is convinced of that. I know that in different departments for unemployed people the officials would agitate citizens take children from street shelters or orphanages because it was a good thing to do and the pay was good. For awhile adoption movement was truly active. The children were given to citizens in groups/packs without carrying who parents were. Orphanages were being closed and former boarding schools were sold and given to private entrepreneurs.

Based on conviction of Likhanov, “the distribution” of children into “good” hands up to a certain point was a good thing especially for the regional government budget.

He states that he heard with his own ears that a governor of a large region on the territory where there are more than sixty orphanages said that it was “profitable” to place orphans into families cause it was cheaper for the state than raising orphans in the orphanage or a shelter.

It is true that in order to raise one orphan in the state institution it cost from 150 to 200,000 rubles ($5,000-$6,666) per year. Whereas if a child is raised in a private orphan care even with the best financial compensation it still cost the state three times less. It seems that everyone is gaining: an orphan has a family, there are fewer orphanages, which is a positive statistics for the reporting) and the state budget has saved some funds.

Citizens have quickly realized that orphans are far away from being angels. Many orphans have enuresis, or have bad habits, or some their genes take it course. Then financial compensation was delayed; thus, the children were being returned back to orphanages. But wait, where you should place double abandoned orphans? Orphanages have been shut down as soon as the bureaucrats have reported that the orphan problem has been solved. Thus, they are being placed into already overcrowded orphanages and shelters.

According to sociologists the last year more than 6,000 children have been returned to orphanages or shelters. This year this number is going to be at least double that.

Of course the Ministry of Education and Science has its own statistics:
In 2008 the government has terminated more than 1,216 cases of families who have taken orphans into their family, but did not do their job. This was said by Aleena Levitskaya the Director of State Politics Department in the sphere of education and social protection of children. All together there were over 3,000 cases.

Torture of babies

According to Levitskaya after the series of tragic death of children who were adopted by foreign citizens serious precaution and control steps were taken. In 2008 about 4,125 children were adopted from Russia, which is a lot less than the year before.

Let me remind to you the murder in May 2006 by an American adoptive mother Peggy Sue Hilt who killed a two-year old Vica. As a result the state had made some significant changes to the foreign adoption procedures. In 2008 a new series of negative and critical critiques were expressed by government officials toward foreign adoptees. This happened due to another case of two adopted boys who were killed/died. Only a lazy one who would not feel that it was his duty to scream “Shame to Russia! Our children are being killed and we are quiet.”
In the entire history of foreign adoption for all adopted children there were only 18 registered cases. Now for justice let us count how many of our own children have been brutally beaten, tortured, handicapped, raped and killed by Russian adopted parents. According to the Ministry of Health Department only in 2006 there were 1,220 deaths in adoptive families. Let us be honest with ourselves that not all these children died as a result of negligence, but…

This year has been a horrible one with different stories of murder or torture of children. In the Primorie region a woman had killed a four year old Polina who lived with her new adoptive mom for just a few weeks. Let’s remember four year old Gleb who had the worst burn degree ever. A sadistic family that had starved two brothers to death in a basement. There is another investigation that is still going which states that a family had sold a year old son for organs. Three year old Danila was starved and tortured for many days. Then while he was still alive he was thrown into a river tied with an old accumulator.

Here are some more statistics: in 1991 there were 40,152,440 children in Russia, in 2008 there are 27,000,000. Yet there are more orphans now than ever…

Horrifying numbers

Shelters, orphanages and boarding schools are more now than after World War II
In 1998 in the orphanage and shelters there was only 87,000 children whereas in 2007 there were more than 735,000 and in 2009 there are more than 800,000.
Annually there are 120,000 children come orphans in Russia. About 80% of them are considered social orphans kids who are without a family yet they do have parents, but raised in the state institution.
Forty percent of orphans upon emancipation become alcoholics, drug addicts or criminals. A true number of girls that end up in prostitution is unknown. In 2009 more than 15,000 children or teenagers were part of some kind of criminal activity.
Annually over 100,000 parents or guardians lose their parental rights or guardianship permit due to negligence.

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Orphanages of Russia

10% do not meet simply sanitary and technical conditions, 48% need a capital renovation of buildings, 5% are considered in emergency stage condition.

This info was released from the report by the Minister of Internal Affairs-Rashid Nurgaliev, Moscow, 2009
How is it there?

In foreign countries traditional state institutions have become a history since 1950’s. In America for instance, a child who was taken away by social services from a family that neglected him/her will be placed into a foster care family. This can be a temporary one - a few months or sometimes even weeks or until a better more permanent family will be found. What is the most important thing here: the child is constantly placed in a family atmosphere.
Why is it like that? The research had shown by doctors and psychologists that a month of stay for a child in a state institution significantly slows the development by three times. The further stay will delay it even further. The delay in intellectual and psychological development is even noticed among the children who before a shelter or an orphanage were perfectly healthy and developed faster than their peers.

A view from a sixth floor

A few years ago the president who was shocked by the number of orphans in institution has order to urgent resolve such complicated and unusually difficult social dilemma. The bureaucrats have promptly responded to this request best to their ability by active imitation. Later on many reports began to flow stating that we shut down so many orphanages and this many shelters. Children were quickly shoved into families without even carrying who was who and if that family was even fit to raise this child. Financial compensations were paid out and the only thing that concerned the state that the parents would not use funds for alcohol.

It was not important for the state to prepare adoptive families to accept new family member. Yet according to specialists this has to happen at least six months prior to finalizing adoption or any other form of social care.
Where is the control by social services for how the children are being raised in a new family with dad and mom? Inspectors with low salaries in social services have no time to do anything else except for dealing with piles of papers that are constantly getting bigger on their desks. Sometimes they have no time to even visit an orphan in the orphanage; thus, they will never visit him/her in a new family.

For many years I have been collecting this data how social orphan issue is being solved in Russia. The latest statistics show that for the last couple of years massive returns of children into orphanages and shelters are happening everywhere from Karelia to Sakhalin. Of course, it is so much easier to blame the financial crisis for all of this. But it is not the case. If a child has truly become one of yours then will you ever try to measure that on the material level? Very rarely when adoptive parents or guardians return a child & shamelessly say the pay was low. Typically they say that they had hoped that there would have been some social perks, divorce of parents, big conflicts and fights especially during teen age. Many of these problems could be solved if social services and other organizations would prepare and teach families how to raise children who were in the orphanage. Unfortunately we have decided to save money on that because we see no value in that.

Alexander Milkus, the editor for the department of education “Komsomol Pravda”
How to solve the orphan problem in Russia? Let’s discuss!
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I decided to share this note from Nadia a graduate of The Harbor. She is currently studying at DTS Missions School in Rostov. It is so awesome to see the hand of our Abba in the lives of our graduates. We covet your prayers.




I love studying at this school. Currently there are five other students and we have become good friends. We have an amazing leaders. We have been serving in different ministries to homeless and at rehab centers. In the future we have many other opportunities to minister to less fortunate ones who have been deprived of the blessings. This is a beginning stage for us and we do not know whole lot and what awaits for us. This morning we had a powerful praise and worship service. We prayed and asked God to show us how He wants to use us. We drew pictures and then explained what it meant to us. The latest two topics that we have been studying are misisons and how to listen God. These topics have touched me deeply.
God is revealing to me something that I have never paid attention to or thought it was not that important. There is a lot of bad stuff and it saddens me down due to that, but I do trust my Heavenly Father. He wants to burn the bad stuff and give me fresh and new stuff. He gives strength and encouragement to me. He helps me to stay on target and make right choices. He is so faithful and I must be faithful back to Him. This school is a blessing to me and I am so excited that I am here right now. I know that this school will help me to become a different person so that I can serve the Lord in a deeper and more powerful way.
Please pray for me. Pray that God would continue to work in me.
Thank you.

Blessings,
Nadia Abramova
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Dan Craig sent us several over the past few months: It is said that, "A good leader inspires people to have confidence in their leader. A great leader inspires people to have confidence in themselves."
It is said, "Until you commit your goals to paper, you have intentions that are seeds without soil."
It is said that, "Wealth is not measured by just what we have, but rather by what we have for which we would not take money."
It is known that, "Temper is the one thing you can't get rid of by losing it."
J. Willard Marriott said, "It's the little things that make the big things possible. Only close attention to the fine details of any operation makes the operation first class."
"A great leader never sets himself above his followers except in carrying responsibilities."
~Jules Ormont"The measure of a truly great man is the courtesy with which he treats lesser men."
"Giving people a little more than they expect is a good way to get back a lot more than you'd expect."
~Robert HalfBill Heller said, "A good friend of mine told me that if our government was in charge of the Sahara Desert, we would run out of sand in short order."
A.W. Tozer said, "It is not what a man does that determines whether his work is sacred or secular. It is why he does it "If I had my life to live over again, I would live it to change the lives of people, because you have not changed anything until you've changed the lives of people. Changing the world requires changing the lives of people."
Charles R. Swindoll, Growing Deep in the Christian LifeRachel Carson warned, "If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder... he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement, and mystery of the world we live in."
D.L. Moody said, "When a man has no strength, if he leans on God, he becomes powerful."Prosperity belongs to those who learn new things the fastest."
Paul Zane Pilzer"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty."
Jeff Pinkleton newsletter had these quotes:
Sin takes us places we don't want to go.
Sin keeps us longer than we want to stay.
Sin costs us more than we're willing to pay.
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Part II
My other meeting in CA was in La Mesa with Bill and Stephanie who have two beautiful Russian children from St. Pete. When I arrived to their house Bill and his daughter Marina came outside to meet me. I was so surprised when Marina ran to me and gave me a big hug. What a joy and sign of trust, which is huge especially because I cannot say that I know her that well. Bill said to me that since her parents trust me, she has learned that she can trust me also. Stephanie prepared a delicious Greek dinner and we had a wonderful fellowship. It gives joy to my heart when I see kids have bonded with their parents. That is very instrumental in becoming a family. Bill and I had a wonderful conversation regarding fundraising because he raises funds for the hospital and hospice in the San Diego area. This was an amazing opportunity for me to grow and soak in Bill’s knowledge and expertise. I am thankful to Bill and Stephanie for a wonderful visit. Please pray for their children John and Marina. Pray for their continuous and stronger bond with their parents.

Rick and Rita our ministry partners who live in Corona, a city southeast of L.A. Rita made a delicioso, an Italian way of saying delicious, Italian dinner and we enjoyed catching up. At a dinner party hosted by this family I met Steve their middle child. Two years ago, Steve was walking with the Lord, but unfortunately, he is no longer walking with the Lord. The parents have been talking to him about God, but he does not want to accept that as the truth. I was able to give some words of encouragement to Rick and Rita through a story, which deeply touched me. It is a story about faith and perseverance how a son was praying for his father everyday for thirty years to accept the Lord. Most people want something to happen instant like McDonald's, but the reality is the opposite. God blesses the humble, obedient, faithful and persevering servants. Please pray for Steve and his parents so that he will return to his Heavenly Father. I think many disconnect with our Father because they have never been able to experience the deep walk with Him, once we do we want more of it. I pray that every person who claims to be a believer will experience a true level of intimacy in their walk with their Heavenly Father.

On that note, I want to stress the importance of deep relationship with our earthly father as well. Many families in this world have fathers that are “somewhat” connected to their children. Somewhat, is not enough. Josh McDowell once shared a story when I went to his apologetics conference in MO. He was in AZ speaking at a larger university to an audience of a few thousand students. Josh was warned about six punks who visited the campus of this university and gave a hard time to anyone who preached the gospel. Sure enough, during his presentation they showed up. Josh paused for a second, slightly shifted his body so he could face them and went on with his presentation. At the end these guys came and asked if they could hug him. Josh was shocked, but he said yes. As he was hugging them he was whispering in their ear, “I love you.” They began to weep so he asked them why they were weeping. The answer they gave him was wrapped around the relationship they had with their own fathers. “Our fathers have never been there for us, never hugged us, or said I love you.”

As an orphan, I have never been able to experience the love of an earthly father. There was no father who could embrace me into his arms when I was lonely. When I became a Christian the Lord became that Father to me and He has given me some men in my life who have been able to give me something that I have never had. There will always be that empty spot in my heart until I will become a father to my own children. I realize that it will be another chapter of inner healing in my heart and life as I will be a father who will dearly love and always embrace my children. My challenge to you who are fathers-- if you have never hugged, kissed, or embraced your son or daughter then do it now. They are waiting for you to do that. The more you become active in the family, the better your family will become. It will be complete just as our Heavenly Father has intended.

My final dinner event in CA was with the Board of Detskiy Dom Partners that is affiliated with Nightlight Christian Adoption Agency. Nightlight has started a Board with members who are passionate and committed to make the difference in the lives of orphans who did not get adopted. Nightlight has been operating in Russia for the past sixteen years or so. Many children were adopted through this agency and every Board member has an adopted child. It was an honor to be part of this dinner, share more about The Harbor, and connect with three adopted children who were present at the dinner. One of the adoptive young adult was from my orphanage #51, but she has been in the states for over ten years now. Another young adult was from a different orphanage in St. Pete, but what I love about her is passion for Russia and desire to go back and do something for other orphans. I actually talked to her about becoming our ambassador in the states and help us raise the awareness. She is finishing her studies and looking for a job in the states. However, her heart is open and we ask for you to pray about her part in this ministry. Please pray for Liana and her becoming the ambassador of The Harbor.

How can you help?

If you love what the Lord is doing in the lives of The Harbor residents and graduates please help us to raise the awareness about our ministry among your friends, relatives, colleagues, and churches.

This past month has been a busy one trying to find new ministry partners. Due to financial struggles around the world, raising funds has been even more challenging. A friend of mine in Russia told me, “Alex, if you want to make God laugh, then show Him the list of your future plans.” If you have asked me fifteen years ago would I have ever been involved in the ministry to orphans or raise funds for an organization that helps “graduate” orphans well, my answer would have been no. The Lord truly does have a sense of humor. “The man makes his plans, but the Lord directs his steps.” (Pr. 16:9) My future plans include going back to Russia in April for about four and a half months. I realize that it is not super effective to raise funds in the states in the summer. Due to summer vacations and/or time off from work it makes more sense for me to be in Russia ministering to orphans. I love being in Russia especially when I can experience the joy of transformation in the lives of our residents and graduates, discipling these orphans who are spiritually hungry, and connecting on a deeper level. Daily I surrender the ministry to our heavenly Father because it is His ministry and not mine/ ours. I ask for peace through the tough times, because I know that He will provide just like He has for the past eight years.

We need more partners that will commit to partner with us by investing $50 or $100 per month to help
maintain our residential and non residential program that is reaching over 80 orphans and 17 Christian national staff.
To financially partner with The Harbor please make tax deductible gift out to CRM (Account #9970) or you can make online donation by visiting: <www.crmleaders.org/support> Make sure to choose The Harbor as your ministry of support. If sending a check please send check to:

Church Resource Ministries
1240 N. Lakeview Ave. Suite 120
Anaheim, CA 92807

Blessings, The Harbor & Alex